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  • Horoscopes: Friday, Oct. 31, 2025

    ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your best trick is showing up fearless, even when you’re making it up as you go. Your best treat is the thrill of spontaneity. You’ll be admired for your bravery. You dive in first and figure it out later.

    TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your best trick is transforming the ordinary into luxury, adding comfort and beauty where none was expected. Your best treat is simple pleasures done well. Tonight, it’s about good food, cozy vibes and affection so sweet it could rot a tooth.

    GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your best trick is how you change the game with a few well-chosen words — quips that are clever, sly and funny. Your best treat is being the spark that makes everyone lean closer to hear more.

    CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your best trick is conjuring safety wherever you go, creating a haven in chaos. Your best treat is the sweetness of being everyone’s “home base,” and tonight they’ll gravitate toward you for grounding.

    LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your best trick is how you can turn any room into your stage. Your best treat is the joy of basking in admiration, not because you demanded it, but because your warmth lights the way.

    VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Your best trick is noticing the details no one else sees. It will mean a lot to the ones who put a lot of care into their celebration of the night. Your best treat is the trust you inspire when people realize you’ll catch what they miss.

    LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your best trick is making the difficult look effortless, from outfits to logistics; you’ll put your excellent taste to work. Your best treat is the harmony you leave behind, like fairy dust that lingers after you’ve gone.

    SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your best trick is seeing the truth hiding under every mask. Whether you reveal your knowledge — that’s up to you. Your best treat is intensity. Even fleeting connections become unforgettable as everything seems to bend to your magnetism.

    SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your best trick is turning the rules into guidelines that keep games fun. To you, the restrictions are hallways — just another way to move through the adventure. Your best treat is wide, bright, contagious laughter.

    CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your best trick is the way you employ leadership skills to conjure order from chaos. Your best treat is the dignity you radiate. It elevates all. Others bring the best version of themselves to your presence.

    AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your best trick is defying expectations, slipping out of every box they try to put you in. Your best treat is freedom. You feel it and live it. You grant it to others just by being yourself.

    PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your best trick is applying your limitless imagination to dreaming something into existence before anyone else believes it’s possible. Your best treat is empathy; you know how to dissolve loneliness in an instant.

    TODAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 31). Welcome to your Year of Marvelous Breakthroughs. What seems impossible becomes second nature in a matter of months. Work turns profitable after a strange experiment. You’ll fall for someone’s quirks and be delighted when they love yours, too. More highlights: An old habit breaks, replaced with something healing. A negotiation goes your way. Creative work draws applause and new fans. Taurus and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 11, 33, 48 and 17.

  • Dear Abby | Plans for anniversary suddenly includes woman’s in-laws

    DEAR ABBY: My husband and I discussed our 25th anniversary and mentioned Hawaii as a possibility. He reached out to his brother and sister-in-law for suggestions, since they have visited Hawaii twice and we never have.

    My husband mentioned to my sister-in-law (without consulting me) that maybe the four of us should travel together to Hawaii. Now my in-laws want to travel with us! My husband is enthusiastic because it will lower the cost. I am very hurt that I wasn’t even consulted. I didn’t know until I overheard them talking about splitting costs on the Hawaii trip.

    Abby, I was not planning a 25th anniversary as a foursome. My husband is calling me a “sourpuss” for not jumping on board with the plan. In my mind, it’s supposed to be an anniversary, not a couples retreat. Am I wrong?

    — CROWDED IN THE SOUTH

    DEAR CROWDED: You are not in the wrong. That your husband and in-laws would alter the plans for your 25th anniversary without consulting you is disrespectful. You should have been consulted. That he has now resorted to name-calling because you are upset is out of line.

    If you feel you won’t be happy celebrating this milestone with them, tell your sister-in-law this was sprung on you with no preparation, which you feel was wrong, and you are not happy about it. Then decide which YOU would prefer — to travel to Hawaii as a group anyway or to just stay home.

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    DEAR ABBY: My father is an antiques collector. He spends every weekend at estate auctions and much of the rest of his time buying for shops. He is experienced and prides himself in knowing the value of things.

    For my birthday, Dad gave me an old copy of a favorite book. He said it was a first edition and worth a lot despite its poor condition. The title page, where the publishing date and run would appear, was missing. The issue is that it ISN’T a first (or even a second) edition. It has the wrong cover and is actually a later run that just had a rough life. I know Dad knew this. The information is easy to find, and I’m pretty sure he cut out the title page so he could pass it off as what he said it was.

    I don’t know why he did this — there could be any number of reasons — but he keeps bragging about what great a gift it was. Should I say something the next time he brings it up? Having the lie hanging out there feels uncomfortable.

    — WONDERING IN THE EAST

    DEAR WONDERING: Be kind. Just thank your father again and resist the urge to tell him you know he is fibbing. If you suspected he had been taken advantage of by a bookseller, I might have answered differently and suggest you warn him about doing business with someone who is unscrupulous. However, because you stated that he’s experienced, I hesitate to advise you to put him on the spot.

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    DEAR READERS: It’s Halloween, a time for fun and fantasy! I hope that any celebrating you do tonight will be creative, fun AND SAFE for everyone involved. Happy Halloweeeeen!

    — LOVE, ABBY

  • Horoscopes: Tuesday, Oct. 28, 2025

    ARIES (March 21-April 19). The fix you’re looking for isn’t new. It’s not even new to you, really. You’ve solved this problem before (or one just like it) and the answer is tucked away in memory. Close your eyes and the solution will be right there waiting for you.

    TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You make people feel special without even trying. It isn’t a performance; it’s your genuine curiosity. Today your interest spreads warmth and sets the tone for lasting goodwill. But more importantly, you’ll have fun getting to know people better.

    GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll do the practical thing, but that doesn’t mean it’s boring. Even the most routine task takes on an air of significance because you care to understand the process, get to know the people and even learn a bit of the history that brought you all to this moment.

    CANCER (June 22-July 22). Once again, you’ll be shown the positive aspect of limits. When you pile on more tasks, include more people, get more items, these additions don’t necessarily make things better. Expenses drain. So the real win today is in editing.

    LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Today you’ll be struck by the richness of your inner life. Reflection and imagination may be a solo mission, but you won’t feel lonely because you’re such a good friend to yourself that self-sufficiency can feel surprisingly social.

    VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Someone seems to enjoy pushing your emotional buttons. They care enough to pay attention to what bothers you and on some level it feels good to be known. Even so, if you want it to stop, your best reaction is not to react.

    LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). People change when they feel included. Your inviting gesture flips the whole mood. Maybe you’ll ask the thoughtful question, save a seat or share a joke. Belonging is a cheap gift to give and a priceless one to receive.

    SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re drawn to love like some people are drawn to the ocean: Ceaseless movement and unfathomable danger magnetize with mysterious and mesmerizing power. You must have the beauty, despite the risk, or perhaps because of it.

    SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). As animals at both ends of the food chain know, hiding isn’t weakness, it’s a survival strategy. Today you may hide for fun or to protect your energy. You may also hide because it allows you to observe the unvarnished truth.

    CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Conditions will never be perfect. Start where you are. The rough draft, the first call, the messy attempt — they might feel awkward or even quite embarrassing, but they separate the dilettantes from those who eventually become masters.

    AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Many around you today will care about surface qualities, appearances and immediate pleasures. You’re looking for what’s sustainable, not just what dazzles in the moment. This quest for value will pay you back sooner than you think.

    PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Titles don’t guarantee actual influence. Someone can be “the boss” but not command respect, or “the leader” without followers. Today, you’ll see something that isn’t being handled. Step up and take charge and you’ll become the one people trust.

    TODAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 28). Welcome to your Year of Unlikely Breakthroughs. What seems impossible now becomes second nature in months. Work turns profitable after a strange experiment. You’ll fall for someone’s quirks and be delighted when they love yours too. More highlights: An old habit breaks, replaced with something healing. A negotiation goes your way. Creative work draws applause and new fans. Taurus and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 11, 33, 48 and 17.

  • Dear Abby | Sister opts to torch the memories of late parents

    DEAR ABBY: My sister has always been a liar and a manipulator. She has lost jobs because of her toxic behavior. Our parents passed away 20 years ago, and ever since, she has trashed their memory to anyone who will listen. She claims she was unwanted because she was female, that my parents refused to name her and wouldn’t take her home from the hospital until police were called. None of that is in any way true.

    Now, she’s claiming our mother slept with multiple men and my biological father could be nearly anyone. I have a DNA test that proves that my father was the man who was married to my mother for more than 50 years. She dismisses this proof as a “lab mistake” and maintains her tale about my parentage.

    How do I respond to this? Do I contact members of our large extended family and tell them what she is doing? I suspect that what she wants is a reaction from me, which she will then weaponize against me as she often does. How do I handle such a liar, who has no concern for the impact of her allegations?

    — FRUSTRATED BROTHER IN TENNESSEE

    DEAR BROTHER: Your sister appears to be mentally unbalanced and unwilling to accept you as her full brother. She may also be trying to upset you. If you think she has been spreading these rumors among your relatives, by all means reach out and tell them you have proof that what she has been saying is untrue. One can only imagine what else she has been lying about.

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    DEAR ABBY: A close relative has been diagnosed with incurable cancer. Friends are now sending me articles and clippings about cancer research and the promise of new therapies. If they had actually READ these articles, they would see that clinical trials on humans are far off, or that the type of cancer referred to in the article is different from what my relative has. Why offer hope when there is none? The same thing happened to me when I had cancer 20 years ago. In one instance, I received an article about how to prevent the cancer I already had!

    Please remind your readers that although these items are most often sent with love, they do little to help the individual experiencing the illness and treatment and can cause anger and pain. Doctors, especially oncologists, provide their patients with the best treatments available. It’s best to let them handle it. Thank you.

    — SAD RELATIVE IN CALIFORNIA

    DEAR RELATIVE: Many people, upon hearing that someone they care about has a terminal illness, feel sad and helpless. Out of a need to do SOMETHING, they will send articles, some of which are inappropriate. While I agree that the most reliable source of information about cancer is your relative’s oncologist, and that readers need to be aware of the message they are trying to send, please understand they are being sent out of a desire to help.

  • Letters to the Editor | Oct. 27, 2025

    Letters to the Editor | Oct. 27, 2025

    Disheartening demolition

    When my family wanted to add a 700-square-foot addition to our ordinary existing home, we had to provide architectural plans, submit them to the local zoning board, and appear at a hearing to state why our plans conformed to local laws and adhered to the character of our neighborhood. President Donald Trump lives in a historic property loaned to him by the people of the United States for use as a temporary residence during his tenure in office. Yet, without any approvals, he is demolishing part of this borrowed home and permanently changing its character.

    When Trump first floated the plan to add a 90,000-square-foot ballroom, he provided assurance that the White House footprint would not change. In August, Trump paved over the historic Rose Garden. This past Tuesday, Trump invited Republican senators to lunch at the new concrete “Rose Garden Club,” granting the senators a chance to bear witness to the bulldozers that — in the midst of a government shutdown — were plowing down Trump’s promise to preserve the East Wing. In the meantime, the National Trust for Historic Preservation haplessly was asking for time to review Trump’s architectural plans.

    As average U.S. citizens, we are bound by rules and regulations and expected to be truthful. Our president lies about his intentions, openly defies historic preservation, demolishes part of our White House, and does so while thumbing his nose at the decent folks who are just trying to get by day by day.

    In Trump World, there is no zoning board, and there are no guardrails. This is a snapshot of our new world order. What will the historians write?

    P. Bookspan, Philadelphia

    . . .

    The East Wing of the White House, built in the 1940s, undoubtedly has asbestos and lead throughout. Were tests done, and remediation actions taken? Take a look at the records for other Donald Trump projects: Profits are more important than the health of workers and the community at large.

    Victoria M. Gillen, Browns Mills

    . . .

    My heart broke seeing the clawlike machine tearing down the East Wing of the White House. Living in Hatfield Township, we had a similar issue about five years ago on a much smaller scale. The last farm in our township was sold. A demolition crew was hired by the new owner to remove the farmhouse. However, the demolition crew halted after the removal of siding exposed walls made of logs from the mid-1700s. After professional historians looked over the siding, they determined the house was one of the earliest structures in the township. After hundreds of people attended meetings concerning the house, it was decided to carefully take the farmhouse apart to be reassembled later at a different location. Unlike our little township, all I saw concerning our beloved People’s House was Donald Trump declaring that in no way would the White House be touched during the construction of his big beautiful ballroom. That could turn out to be a bigger lie than his saying he won in 2020.

    Joseph Obelcz, Hatfield

    . . .

    Instead of destroying the People’s House to build a billionaire’s ballroom, Donald Trump should turn it into a soup kitchen for all the people who will no longer be receiving SNAP benefits.

    Cheryl Rice, Erdenheim

    Canadian comparisons

    I very much appreciated Daniel Pearson’s column on Montreal and how it compares with Philadelphia. I have been to Montreal 11 times, and I have observed many of the same things: Centreville is the business center of Montreal, yet it has residential dwellings, retail, and other sorts of establishments, and therefore does not feel as hollow as some downtown areas in American cities. It is known for being very clean and orderly. Yet, everybody seems like they are relaxed and having a good time, even in this predominantly business district.

    Montreal also has ethnic enclaves such as Chinatown, and it also has strong West African, Lebanese, Moroccan, and other communities. Some of these communities are long-established. Montreal’s Old City section by the St. Lawrence River equates to our Old City section. It’s an area of history and tourism woven into one. Montreal has some of the greatest educational establishments in the world, especially McGill University, which dominates a lot of the intellectual thought of the city. Where Montreal differs from Philadelphia is in its ability to keep extreme economic disparities at bay. Some neighborhoods are doing better than others, but you don’t have a sense of dread if you accidentally get off at the wrong Metro station. The subway trains have rubber tires and are quieter than our subway trains, plus the stations are kept in a presentable manner.

    Women are very prominent in the civic life of Montreal. The misogyny and misandry that often infects our society aren’t prevalent there. Montreal does not have the tension with the provincial capital, Quebec City, that Philadelphia has with Harrisburg. Too often, I find that Philadelphia tries to learn from other American cities that are experiencing the same difficulties. With a similar layout and a similar population, Montreal might be a better example. Perhaps we need to start emulating a winning strategy. Let’s find out what they do correctly that can be replicated here.

    David W. Wannop, Philadelphia

    Filibuster, anyone?

    The truth about the current shutdown is that the Republicans can end it without Democratic help at any time. All they need to do is change the Senate rules regarding the filibuster. They did this in September to get 48 of Donald Trump’s government nominees approved. To change the rules only requires 50 votes. The reason they won’t do it is that politically, they would rather blame the Democrats than negotiate with them. Democrats should hold firm and point this out next time John Thune and Mike Johnson try to blame them on TV. The opposition party that controls no part of the government is under no obligation to help the other party.

    Warren Kruger, Abington

    Too young to remember

    From news articles, it appears many of the Donald Trump supporters are young people in their early 20s — too young to remember the terrible first Trump administration. Some perspective that may make some of us feel old: Today’s college seniors were in seventh grade when Trump was first elected nine years ago.

    These youngsters are also way too young to know what it was like to fear polio and see your friends put in an iron lung. What a relief it was to have a polio vaccine. And what do these young people of today know of World War II and the fight to save the world from the fascism that had taken control of Germany and Italy? With few World War II veterans remaining, most young people will not have a grandfather or father who faced the horrors of fighting to save democracy.

    When I was a youngster, it was required that I have several vaccinations (MMR — measles, mumps, rubella) in order to attend school. My parents did not question this policy — they accepted it as a measure to keep their children safe, and they were grateful for it. Today, I am grateful for the additional vaccines that are available for me — pneumonia, shingles, and, in particular, the flu and COVID-19 vaccines. It’s distressing to now see that many vaccines are no longer recommended, and may become unavailable or only stocked in limited supplies. It appears the scientific progress made in the last century and decades is being rejected by two men, neither of whom is a doctor or scientist.

    When will today’s young people bother to consider how the current administration is sabotaging their future as well as that of their parents and grandparents? If the luck they depend on holds, they will grow old, but will they still have vaccinations, healthcare, Social Security, food, and a safe environment? Who will they blame when these are gone? Will they look in a mirror?

    Carol Sundeen, Lower Makefield

    Do the right thing

    Republican House leader Mike Johnson says he will bring back the Republican House members when Democrats do the right thing. What Johnson means by the “right thing” is for Democrats to allow 22 million people on the Affordable Care Act to have their premiums doubled, and for 15 million people on Medicaid to lose their health insurance. I, for one, am glad that Democrats refuse to do Johnson’s “right thing.”

    Dave Posmontier, Elkins Park

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  • Horoscopes: Monday, Oct. 27, 2025

    ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ll have an audience. Whether you perform for one person or a thousand, your aim is the same — to be your best. And actually, in the end, scale doesn’t matter. The effort will be identical.

    TAURUS (April 20-May 20). When people feel judged, they instinctively pull away. And when you judge yourself, it’s the same. Part of you pulls away from yourself, leaving you feeling torn and lonely. But when you stop grading and scoring, tension dissolves. Connection is possible again.

    GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Someone else might dismiss a minor opportunity, but not you. You treat the small stage like the main event. A few attendants, a casual conversation, even a walk down the street can be a chance to show the world your vitality.

    CANCER (June 22-July 22). You put more thought into things than the others do, treating little opportunities with the same focus you’d give a “big break.” You practice as if the rehearsal were the performance. Because you make the most of small moments, you’re given bigger ones.

    LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Today you’ll be like the butterfly whose style is to travel lightly. You switch directions quickly, notice more, and enjoy movement itself. It keeps you from overinvesting or wasting energy on grudges or drama.

    VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Like the sugar high of candy, what’s immediately pleasurable isn’t always the healthiest. What’s good, like exercise, often requires discomfort. Knowing what you want? Not a problem. Wanting what’s good for you? That’s harder, if only because you’re human.

    LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It is never possible to fully know a person, but as long as you keep paying attention, that counts for a lot. Stay present and curious, avoiding assumptions based on yesterday because no one wants to be trapped in past versions of themselves.

    SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your imagination does two jobs at once today. It soothes you with comforting daydreams to buffer you from harsh realities and it sparks you with exciting ideas to propel you toward creating a better reality for you and yours.

    SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The day features an invigorating background noise. The chatter, the movement, the people around you working just like you are — they contribute to a sense that you and all the other spokes in the wheel are rolling into the future together.

    CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A balance is struck today. It’s not the kind of perfect equilibrium that lasts forever, but a sweet moment of harmony that reminds you that calm is possible, peace is a place that waits for you, and love lives in you.

    AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Sometimes it feels like others just don’t care about the same things you care about. Whether it’s true or not, it’s out of your control. Your passion is what matters. You’ll fight indifference with small rebellions like kindness, art and beauty.

    PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ve been steadily improving a situation and it shows. Others may not notice every little adjustment, but the cumulative effect is undeniable. Your knack for refinement will be a source of pride and not just your own.

    TODAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 27). Welcome to your Year of the Brilliant Reset. What’s been nagging at you for months gets a full overhaul. Work is lighter and freer because you drop an old burden and trade up for something more lucrative. Love grows through honesty. More highlights: A trip reshapes your perspective. You’ll land unexpected allies, people who back you with resources and time. Finances flow and grow with a single disciplined change. Cancer and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 21, 16, 50 and 14.

  • Dear Abby | Teen’s change of surname aggravates grandparents

    DEAR ABBY: Our granddaughter, “Amy,” who shows in 4-H, decided to take her stepdad’s last name when appearing at the fair. Our son, her father, is a big part of her life. This is the second year in a row she has done this, and it hurts me and my husband deeply. Her mother, stepdad and his family think it’s great. Our son has no backbone and won’t stand up to Amy’s mother or put his foot down about the situation.

    We tried talking with Amy. She said she will go by her stepdad’s last name and doesn’t care how we feel. We love her very much. Her stepfamily’s name is no more important than anyone else’s, but they think it is a big deal.

    After Amy answered the way she did, we told her we will no longer support her at the 4-H fair. She is at the impressionable age of 14. My husband and I agree that we will also discontinue Amy’s birthday and Christmas gifts if she is going to treat us like this. We were brought up to respect our family, and this is a slap in the face. What should we do?

    — PROUD OF OUR NAME

    DEAR PROUD: You wrote that your son is still a big part of Amy’s life. Has your granddaughter explained why she’s determined to do this? Could it be as simple as wanting to use a name that matches the parents who brought her to the event?

    You have allowed yourselves to become too involved in this. Retaliating by no longer subsidizing Amy’s 4-H activities and withholding birthday and Christmas gifts may have been rash and could drive a lasting wedge that won’t be easily repaired. More calm and rational discussions should take place before you go nuclear.

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    DEAR ABBY: I do everything for my family. I take care of everyone. I also work and earn a good living. Now that I’m older and my kids are grown, I like to go on vacation. The problem is, my husband doesn’t want to do anything.

    My best friend booked a trip for the two of us, and I’m excited to go and enjoy a few days off from “my life,” so to speak, but my husband is mad because he isn’t invited. I have taken a vacation without him to see our grandson across the country, and it has never been an issue. We have been together 38 years.

    For the last two years, my husband has been sick, but he’s doing much better now. I feel like I deserve a break and a mental reset. He says he is “hurt.” He is trying to guilt me into not going, but I told him I need this for my own sanity. Am I wrong for wanting and needing this?

    — ESCAPING IN SOUTH CAROLINA

    DEAR ESCAPING: Taking care of a sick husband in addition to everyone else is stressful. I’m glad your husband is doing better, and I understand why you might want a break. You stated that he “doesn’t want to do anything” but feels hurt that he wasn’t included. Tell him if his urge to travel has revived along with his health, you would be delighted to arrange a trip for just the two of you. You can afford it, and it may soothe his feelings.

  • Letters to the Editor | Oct. 26, 2025

    Letters to the Editor | Oct. 26, 2025

    A moment of understanding

    We refuse to be enemies. We refuse to hate each other. We are two mothers, one Jewish American and one Palestinian American, who have found in each other a friend with whom to cry, to dream, to learn, to laugh, to heal, and to grow.

    Going against the grain of deep-seated conditioning requires vulnerability, an essential and universal human quality. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable shatters the conception that another person is “enemy,” and opens us to seeing the other’s fears, insecurities, wounds, hopes, and needs.

    We first met in May 2024 while planning a women’s peace vigil at City Hall sponsored by Sisters Waging Peace, a Philadelphia chapter of the Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom that brings together Jewish and Muslim women. The seed of friendship we have planted and watered with tears has taken root. We are actively creating a new “us” — one conversation, one peace vigil, one moment of understanding at a time.

    Now that there is a ceasefire in Gaza, we can breathe for a moment, but we cannot rest. A ceasefire halts the bombs, but does not end the underlying structure of injustice. The work to end the occupation must continue with even greater intensity. We must remember that the status quo was not peace, and going back to it would bring us back to the cycle of destruction and loss.

    Sisters Waging Peace, the Philadelphia chapter of American Friends of Combatants for Peace, and others will next bear public witness on Oct. 27, at City Hall from 4 to 5 p.m. Please come join us, wearing white, to pray for a just peace in Palestine and Israel, to bring a spirit of peace to our city, and to honor our humanity.

    Samah Elhajibrahim and Rabbi Malkah Binah Klein, founding members, Sisters Waging Peace

    Finding common ground

    Pennsylvania’s diversity has always been one of our commonwealth’s greatest strengths, but it has also frequently played a prominent role during political disputes. Whether the divide is rural vs. urban, wealthy vs. struggling communities, or along racial and ethnic differences, these fault lines become flashpoints when difficult decisions must be made.

    The recent battle over SEPTA funding provided a clear example.

    During budget negotiations, as Philadelphia’s transit system faced devastating service cuts, Republican Senate Majority Leader Joe Pittman of Indiana County spoke on the Senate floor about his rural Western Pennsylvania upbringing, quoting John Mellencamp’s “Small Town” before stating: “Human nature suggests, why should I do anything to help? I don’t ever get any help for my region. Why should I do anything to help the southeast part of the state?”

    This framing of regional interests in opposition to one another is nothing new to our statehouse. The tension runs deep and cuts both ways: a Democratic legislator responded by proposing to split state tax revenue by region, noting Philadelphia generates more revenue than it receives and subsidizes public services in counties that can’t afford them.

    The best antidote to division in our politics is common understanding, and that’s precisely why the statewide reporting of Spotlight PA is so important.

    As an independent, nonprofit newsroom, Spotlight PA seeks to better connect communities with what’s happening (or not) in Harrisburg, and to better connect communities to one another. The newsroom shares all its stories at no cost with more than 125 partner news outlets across the state dedicated to informing their local communities, including The Inquirer.

    The less we understand about life across Pennsylvania — people’s challenges, economic conditions, and their daily realities — the more susceptible we all become to politics that emphasize our differences rather than our shared interests.

    Finding common ground requires first understanding the ground others stand on — and that’s impossible without quality local news coverage from throughout the state.

    Christopher Baxter, CEO and president, Spotlight PA

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  • Dear Abby | Relationship with younger man reaches crucial point

    DEAR ABBY: I was with the same person (my first “everything” guy) for 23 years. A few years after the shock of a divorce, I met someone 10 years my junior. He makes me feel I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, complimenting on what my ex considered my faults, showing I am still a sexy, desirable woman and making me feel like I matter in this world.

    The problem is, despite him saying he could live without having kids (I’m almost 50), I fear it may be something he’ll regret or resent me for down the road if we stay together. His friends keep trying to fix him up with younger women “because he’d be a good dad,” and it breaks my heart to think this might be what tears us apart when we haven’t yet put a label on what we are together.

    I don’t want to hold him back from a life he may have pictured, yet it terrifies me that I’d have to see him with someone else. He stays friends with his exes, so I can imagine him expecting me to still be part of his life even if not romantically. I’m not sure my heart could handle that. Advice?

    — WISTFUL IN WASHINGTON

    DEAR WISTFUL: You are overdue for a conversation with this man in which you tell him you need to know how important having children is to him. Explain that his friends trying to fix him up with younger women “because he’d make a great dad” is unnerving, and you do not want to stand in his way if he wants to be one.

    While you are at it, tell him that standing aside and watching him build a life with someone else would be heartbreaking for you, and he shouldn’t expect that it will happen. It is the truth. He needs to hear it, and you need his answer.

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    DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law is a very generous lady. She pays for nearly everything as far as food and necessities for our family when she visits twice a year. She’s a foodie, which means when she’s here, we eat at any restaurant she hasn’t tried. She’ll order nearly every appetizer on the menu and encourage each of us to order something different so we can all sample a variety of entrees. The dessert menu is no exception.

    I have dietary issues and have only recently figured out which foods don’t make me uncomfortable. I can no longer tolerate dairy, fatty foods, etc. The menu items at most restaurants contain those things. When I politely refuse certain appetizers or sides with my entrees, she becomes upset. I understand, as she does pay for everything. How can I get around not compromising my health with her generosity?

    — PERPLEXED IN COLORADO

    DEAR PERPLEXED: The conversation you must have with your mother-in-law should take place privately, and not while you are at a restaurant ordering food. You may need to have it more than once, and in advance of her visit. If necessary, explain, IN DETAIL, how severe your digestive issues are. Then, when you and the family dine out, tell the server who is taking your order exactly what you need.

  • Horoscopes: Sunday, Oct. 26, 2025

    ARIES (March 21-April 19). Is it true that when you open yourself up, the universe sends the right people in? Maybe people cross your path all the time, but you only welcome new friends when something in you is ready. Either way, you’re so ready.

    TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your room, your rules. The more you live that, the easier it is to respect boundaries elsewhere. Clarity today comes from remembering who’s in charge of the space you’re in.

    GEMINI (May 21-June 21). A secret comes your way, and suddenly, you’re holding something fragile. What you do with it changes the dynamic. Keep it safe and people will treat you differently, with the kind of trust you cannot ask for directly.

    CANCER (June 22-July 22). The future you once wanted no longer applies, and good riddance. Your current incarnation is wiser. There’s relief in the admission that you don’t know what the future brings. Uncertainty is your power — margins wide enough to let the impossible in.

    LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). A win feels bigger because someone is watching. It’s not that you live to amuse, entertain and wow them, but it does bring you great pleasure to know this is possible, as it should. Yours is a rare gift!

    VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today’s problem will be solved with a scientific approach. Decide which metrics are meaningful to you and start recording the data. With small, logical steps, you’ll move the action in your preferred direction and create the habits that will nurture your best self.

    LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Someone tries your patience, but you don’t lose your cool over it. You can bend the moment toward a lighter feeling. Irritation is less powerful when you find it curious, even funny. You’ll surprise yourself by laughing at what once drove you mad.

    SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re in one of those states where ideas come easily and the creative momentum is exciting, not to mention attractive to everyone around you. They’ll be fascinated as they watch and wonder what you’ll make next.

    SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Feelings sneak up, quick and full. Pause to trace where they started and what they are pointing to. There’s a clue in the emotion, and following it leads to the breakthrough you’ve been wanting.

    CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Instead of trying to predict and plan for every contingency, decide what matters. Remember, there is no objective right answer. If it matters to you, it matters. There’s too much good stuff happening to waste energy on things of little impact.

    AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your interest in others draws out their stories, and in the sharing, connections start to form. You don’t even have to ask particularly insightful questions. Your attention alone invites people to reveal what they most want you to know.

    PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It sounds improbable, but it really happens like this: The wrong turn sets you free. What you thought was a mistake reveals a better path. Truly, the delay is nothing compared to the discovery.

    TODAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 26). Welcome to your Year of the Bold Leap. You’ll take daring steps in work which lead to promotion or even heading your own business. Relationships thrive because you go for what you want and say what you need to say. More highlights: You’ll risk rejection and come out ahead. Finances improve with structure. A presentation shows who you are — people start following and paying you for your ideas. Gemini and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 18, 4, 44 and 28.